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Realize your love for your partner before it’s too late. Life doesn’t give a 2nd chance to everyone.

10 Mar 2011 Leave a Comment

by Faraah Dabhoiwala in Uncategorized

10^th March, today it’s a really really important day for me but something is missing. It’s the day which changed my life completely.

Reading my current post you may end up saying – “She is psycho, or too much out of the real world “whatever. Hey but someone might also say –“She is too much mature. She knows much about relationships” – Your choice.

Well but I am going to narrate a story today which I heard when I was in 11^thstandard and still that story is close to my heart. I just loved that story at that time and I still love it.

It’s about a guy and a girl. Their 1st meeting was normal how most Indian couples meet and that was a friend’s “Marriage”. I am not narrating any extra ordinary story it’s a simple story. So for guy it was love at first site. So at friend’s marriage they just saw each other and the guy just knew her name at that time, nothing more than that and that’s all.

But what happens the next day while he travels in a Mumbai local train he gets a glance of the same girl in the train on the adjacent track.

Now that was a mere co-incidence or destiny or whatever you call it.

He makes out that she is studying medicine. It’s a story OK!! so just take it as a story. Then it becomes easy for him to get all her details – her name, address and everything but that’s how guys are, getting all the details of a girl – quite easy for them.

He finally meets her. Tells her what he feels about her. But the girl thinking that he is a kind of flirt just ignores him saying it’s an infatuation. And yes that guy’s friends too say the same – it’s an infatuation –“Dimag ka Bukhar  ”

But he still keeps on following her and somehow convinces the girl that it’s hisTrue Love for her and not infatuation. So the girl just asks him to send an official proposal for her, ask his parents to talk to her parents – hmm… !! complete Indian scenario.

And now the case is with parents. Guy was rich and girl was from middle class.

So when the parents meet, guy’s father insult girl’s family like anything. This is a narrow minded trend persisting inIndiathat guy’s family has all rights to say anything nonsense to girl’s family. Although it has changed to some extent but still it’s prevailing in many castes and culture.

So now the next day girl got very upset with all the drama that happened when that guy’s family visited her place. When the guy met her (as usual catching up anywhere) she told him to forget her and now nothing was possible and it’s all over, your parents insulted my parents and I can’t see if anyone does that with my parents. Find another girl for yourself and marry her. And there is a temporary hold on the whole topic.

They don’t meet each other for many days. Soon the guy starts missing her badly and the girl also starts feeling the same when she doesn’t find him wherever she goes.

Then she goes for a medical camp for few days and the guy somehow tries to find out where she is. Finally he finds her and when they see each other the very next moment – they hug each other.

They realize that they love each other madly and finally decide to marry  as soon as possible but at the same time they decide that they will hide the whole thing from their parents for sometime till the girl’s elder sister gets married and till the time they will live as if they are single.

Skipping some part of the story. Just want to say that somehow the family comes to know that they got married.

Finally both the families throw them out of the house. Soooooooo Sad!!

Now here is where story takes a different turn. Lovers I mean married couple are set free. Yeeee yippy!!! They buy a house and settle in there.

For few days things are too good. They enjoy each others company. Romance is in the air. Its all Love , Love and Love. They got what they wanted.

But there is a proverb in Hindi “Ghar me 2 bartan honge to awaaz to aayegi hi!!” . Now misunderstandings arise, quarrels on silly topics and what not. The guy just keeps on shouting at the girl for no reason. Soon girl starts marking crosses on the calendar and guy says “Now what’s that?” She replies “Just marking crosses so that one can come to know marriage has so many disadvantages”

Everyday different incidences occur which makes them feel that now theirlove is vanishing. Not narrating all the incidences. They just keep on quarrelling for petty reasons. Romance was no more. Their lives become worse. They feel that they can’t live with each other but then at the same time they also feel that they got married and they will have to live with each other thinking that’s the destiny. Yup!! That happens when you are too much attached. You can leave the person and you can’t live without the person. But days just passed with no love in between them. They stopped talking to each other and whenever they talked it was a quarrel.

One morning again they had a quarrel and after that girl goes to the hospital (she completed her medicine by the time). But in the evening she doesn’t turn back home. The guy looks for her everywhere – in hospital where she worked, on railway station, he even goes to her parents place to look for her but couldn’t find her.

That was the time when he starts realizing what he lost. That was the time when he had tears in his eyes. That was the time when he realized that he can’t live without her and IMMENSE LOVE was still there for her in his heart.

Finally he registers a complaint (FIR) for his missing wife in police station.

He just misses her. He finds himself all alone at home. That evening becomes too painful for him. He just realizes that they had quarrels, misunderstandings but nothing was above their love.

Finally police informs him that his wife met an accident. Alas!!

He reaches the hospital. His wife’s case gets very complicated. She is taken to the operation theatre.

Doctors say that only God can help..

She is taken out of the operation theatre. She lies silently on the bed with her eyes closed. She isn’t in her senses. The guy sits beside her and talks to her how he realized his love for her. He gets very much emotional. Tears roll down his eyes. Its all silent everywhere. He is just waiting for her to open her eyes.

Finally she opens her eyes. He talks to her. He shows all his love for her, gives her a tight hug. Both of them realize that they can’t live without each other. They were on the verge of separation but she met an accident and that incident brought love back into their lives. They realized each others value in their lives. How precious they meant to be for each other. They really loved each other. They lived happily ever after.

Don’t let the misunderstandings overcome your love. Don’t leave your partner just because of petty reasons. Love should be above everything. Misunderstandings happen with everyone. But some sort them out in their bedroom itself while some just make it public by involving friends then families then lawyer and at the end court and finally it leads to separation. Don’t add fuel to the fire. Rather be calm for sometime and sort it out amongst yourself. Love can make everything happen. Relationships do work but there is a proper way to handle them. Just give priority to love and see how the things get simpler. The one whom you loved immensely at one period of time you can’t just leave him/her for no reason. Only few get 2^nd chance just like the couple in the story got rest don’t even get a 2^nd chance. Realize love for your partner before it’s too late.

GOD BLESS ALL.

Regards,

Faraah Dabhoiwala

*I will tell later on from where i heard this story.I also thank a lot to the person who told me this story years back.Hey most of you might also have heard this story so just consider it as a flash back don’t spoil the whole thing by telling the source of the story. Please. Just today value this story. I value it a lot lot lot and it means a lot to me since the time i heard it (11th Standard) Oh its 4.30 pm so much time passed out in writing this story. But today it was important to write it. Hope some couples may get advantage out of it and learn something very important about relationship. And hope i save few love stories and lovers/husband-wife from seperation.

In the haste of life,are we missing something very special?

01 Aug 2010 Leave a Comment

by Faraah Dabhoiwala in Uncategorized

It’s an incident that took place a few months ago. I was on my way to home from office and what I saw was my schoolmate Sabiha. I wanted to meet her, talk to her. We really feel too good; you know when we meet our school mates/friends. I don’t know about any one else but I personally really feel very good about it. But the problem was I was extremely tired and the feeling that overcame the feeling of meeting my classmate was reach home and relax I am too tired to talk to anyone.

How strange!!

I would have been very happy if I would have talked to her. I still feel that I missed few moments of happiness, few moments which would have brought smile on my face but unfortunately we are so much indulged in our daily schedule that we don’t have time for our loved ones or for our friends. We hardly find time to enjoy life. We put our so much potential in our professional life that we are hardly left with energy to spare moments of love, care and happiness with our family.

Yup another example, a week ago someone asked me what do you do with your salary? I just replied casually I don’t have time to spend my money.

We are earning for the whole week and weekend goes in taking rest.

Actually I never dreamt of such a life. I thought I will be very happy if I pursue a very good career in my field. It’s exactly 6 months now but still that “happiness” factor is missing. I mean what’s so happy about it that I go to office and eventually get very tired and I don’t have strength left to talk to my mom, dad and my younger brother and I end up my day speaking up nothing.

What if one day I get a very position in the company in future and I look back and find my life empty!! No magical moments that I shared with my family. It can’t be considered life. Life word itself suggests something that deals with emotions, feelings but we all in this age are like machines working and working and working with no emotions or feelings left out at the end of the day.

Yesterday I saw some part of the movie “I Hate Love Stories”

I encountered a very good dialog in that: – “Man earns money so that he can enjoy life and if he doesn’t enjoy then what’s the use of earning money”

Applaud!! Very well said.

All this has made me to think in completely opposite direction of what I was thinking since last so many years. Just 6 months of job experience just changed my 11 years of career oriented thinking.

I am still thinking ….

And ya I wanted to write this post on the very first Sunday after this incident took place but didn’t get time to put down the things. Finally I am completing my pending blog posts today.

I have still many things in my mind.

Regards,

Faraah M. Dabhoiwala